August 20, 2013

Dealing With Infertility

In a previous article, we mentioned that we’ve added two children to our family in the past two years. They are an incredible blessing from God and bring so much joy to our lives. But to get to this joyful place, we’ve had to travel a long, hard, painful road. For six years we dealt with infertility. It can be a very difficult thing to explain, when you’re 24 and can’t get pregnant.

Month after month we were disappointed. Year after year Melissa went to the doctors and underwent tests, shots, and procedures. We lost our very first pregnancy at eight weeks and it was devastating. After four years, we gave up on biological children and decided to foster-to-adopt. And that was a crazy-difficult experience as well—thankfully ending in July after the adoption of our 1½ year-old son. (We also had a baby girl in June, who is our miracle baby.)

To read more about what we've learned over the last few years dealing with infertility, click here:
http://youthministry.com/dealing-with-infertility-lessons-in-sharing-and-sensitivity/

August 6, 2013

Does Your Spouse Need to Serve?

Whatever you call it: volunteering, serving, a two-for-one, ministering, or just plain old helping out…the spouse of a youth pastor is often expected to jump into the ministry world with both feet. Sometimes this works well for a couple, and their marriage thrives in this type of environment. But there are also plenty of spouses who feel forced into youth ministry roles that don’t mesh with their personalities, talents, and/or spiritual gifts.

So does the spouse of a youth pastor have to serve in the youth group?

To find out our thoughts, check out: http://www.morethandodgeball.com/simply-insider/does-your-spouse-need-to-serve/#sthash.qhe7HtNW.dpuf

August 4, 2013

The Myth of Permanency

Why permanency is right up there with the loch ness monster, big foot and santa claus. Check out the new blog for HolyMess of Marriage: http://bit.ly/1elpdsZ